Monday, June 16th, 2008
The Progenitor Day Challenge
My 4-year-old daughter has given me a clear view of how all future Father's Days should go down in our home.
1. Let dad sleep in.
2. Give Dad a handmade gift, in this case, a rock painted red with dollops of purple glitter. It's a paper weight she made in preschool.
3. Make dad brunch. In this case, handmade pizza, cinnamon rolls and banana hot dogs. I didn't try that last one.
4. Open another handmade gift, a drawing of my face.
5. Sing "Happy Father's Day" (like the birthday song) and hugs all around.
What was noticeably absent was a store-bought gift from my wife. No new gas grill. No lawn mower. No power tools. No card from Hallmark. No nothing. While my wife let me sleep in and helped my daughter cook, the focus on the holiday was on my daughter's expression of appreciation for me.
That's right. Mom doesn't give Dad a gift. That's what our wedding anniversary is for. And Valentine's Day. And my birthday. And Christmas. And underlying all of that is the fact that any product I genuinely need has probably already been purchased by me long before a holiday.
Now, I was hip to using the day as an excuse to dine out, but if we had done that, I would never have tasted my first spaghetti pizza for dinner.
So…. my point in all of this is to give Dad something that cannot be bought, and to keep Father's Day about how kids feel about their father.
What do you think? Is your family up for this kind of challenge? If Dad loves his new gas grill too much, why not buy it before the holiday? The same goes for Mother's Day. Keep Progenitor Days about children and their relationships to their parents.