Tuesday, November 27th, 2007
Stay at Home Dads: Too Feminine?
The Council picked apart my question, Are Doll Houses OK for Boys?, although perhaps missed my more strident follow-up post about a video titled William’s Doll. My view is that boys playing with doll houses can help demonstrate a man’s role in the household, in addition to being good imaginative play. Likewise, a doll can demonstrate a father’s role in caring for an infant. I don’t agendize it for every boy, but a dad shouldn’t sweat his boy wanting to play with dolls or a dollhouse.
I found this quote really interesting from the Gender Blog article:
“We don’t need boys who can push a baby carriage and appropriately dress
a doll. We need boys who have had a sense of courage, adventure, resilience, toughness, and predilection to protect and provide for others built in them.”
Why can’t boys have both sets of qualities? Are they really mutually exclusive?
I wonder what that viewpoint says about me, a man who changes diapers and pushes a baby stroller while my wife works outside the home. Okay, my wife and I actually each work part-time, so that may explain why I have a “quasi-androgynous approach” to parenting. Something tells me our lifestyle is objectionable to certain Americans. I’m flabbergasted.
But actually, I don’t have to wonder. In the Council’s earlier post, Dads: the New Moms?, it clearly spells out that my manhood may be on the line:
“The new stay at home dad phenomenon [...] may indicate that when men do not have clear biblical grounding for masculine behavior and expectations, then in their efforts to be more involved, will give up the very things that are at the heart of masculinity.”
Wow. Simply wow.
A single religious text is often used by opposing groups to justify polar opposite viewpoints, so please think of the Council’s reaction in terms of being a far-right conservative opinion and leave your own religious bias outside when reading their articles. You could, for example, be an atheist and still agree with many of the Gender Blog viewpoints.
I don’t share these articles wanting to spark a reaction from my readers, although I’m sure they do. I think it’s important for you to know these viewpoints exist because we usually surround and insulate ourselves with like-minded people and media.