Monday, March 13th, 2006
Advice to a Dad-in-Waiting
I learned yesterday that an old college buddy is 10 weeks pregnant. Here are two pieces of advice I gave the dad-to-be:
Don’t be selfish. Like all other advice you’ll receive, those three words won’t help you prepare for being a dad. Fatherhood can only be experienced.
I have a friend who told me his life would not change after his first child arrived. He has tried to live up to that belief, to the detriment of his children. They are merely a responsibility to him, and not an amazing source of joy. The example he has set helps me work at being his opposite. Fatherhood requires selflessness, giving all you can and more. And likewise, you must be open to receive all that you are given in return.
My second piece of advice should be repeated every time you feel overwhelmed at the idea of being a parent. Life doesn’t happen all at once. It all works out in good time.